Dependency

One of the old Penthouse guys just sent us an email informing us that he and his wife just had a baby. That's crazy! Dude! Ray lived on the floor with me 2 years ago and now he's got a wife and a kid! Best of luck to you friend. It's crazy to think of all the things that can happen in life and there' s no telling how soon your circumstances can be night and day different. Shorb... will this be you in a couple years?! HAHAHA

So, lately the thoughts have been pertaining to the idea of 'dependence'. Is it a good thing? Is it a bad thing? There seem to be two camps in this little tussle. First, we have the independent, totally self-sufficient (or so we like to make ourselves out to be this way) individuals who say that dependence is a bad thing because it causes you to relinquish control of your own life in ways that they shouldn't be. Then there are those people who seem to think (or at least they live their lives as evidence to the fact that) they can't walk a step in this world without someone there to take them through it. You know the people, those who always and forever seem to have to have an arm to grab ahold of metaphorically speaking... I know for most of my life I have been firmly entrenched in the self-sufficient side of this argument. Life experiences have moved me away from that now, though. I think that there's a lot to be said for some level of dependence in one's life, especially on the relational side of things. I'm not advocating the other side. Certainly not! I do not believe it's very healthy for someone to walk through their young life without experiencing a sufficient amount of it without a significant other or whatnot (How can we really know who we are if we've never experienced that sense of aloneness?). But, what I am saying is that it's easy to overlook the possible benefits about a certain amount of dependency. So, the enlightened thought of the week has been that my understanding of my relationship with God is increased, as well as an overall edification in my life when I allow myself to hold a healthy level of dependency on others relationally.